Another 365 days have passed and we’re ready to welcome in the new year. I’ve seen a whole bunch of posts already complaining about how shitty 2017 has been (remember everyone in 2016 being ready to make 2017 their year?!) Well buckle up because 2018 is going to be just as shit. The beauty of life is that you never know what’s around the corner – no matter how much you plan there’s always an element of uncertainty and the opportunity for stuff you never planned for but that is half the fun!
Angsty teenager Soph was very woe me. I’d sit and list all the terrible things that had happened and dwell on them, feeling sorry for myself and obsessing over how awful my life had been. I must have been about 16 or 17 when I had a total flip of perspective. I think I was having a bad hair day which spiralled into staring at myself in the mirror and telling myself how disgusting I looked (I know, I’m eye rolling at myself). It was at that point that I realised this wouldn’t change anything – if I wanted things to change, I had to change them myself. It seems like a very simple ‘epiphany’ but it’s one that’s changed my perspective ever since.
If I don’t like something, I will change it. If I can’t change it, I will learn to love it or live with it.
So what I’m trying to say is every new year will be shit unless you do something to change it. Unless you work towards your goals and put the effort in, nothing is going to change and every year forever more will be rubbish – it’s your job to make it not rubbish.
Numero dos: embrace the bad bits too. There will always be things that are out of our control and unfortunately, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles. One thing that helps me is looking back on all the bad bits of the year – not to dwell but to find the silver lining or a good thing that’s come out of it. If you can’t find that, then maybe you’re grateful it happened in a certain way? I started having fits this year and was diagnosed with epilepsy but I certainly don’t resent it happening. That isn’t to say it hasn’t been overwhelmingly difficult or that there haven’t been some really hideous days but I got through those by looking on the bright side of life. One thing I consider a Blessing: I never had a fit or a seizure whilst driving. Epilepsy was part of the plan for me, I just didn’t make the plan myself. Either way, it was going to happen and I am grateful every day that it was in an office and not behind the wheel.
Now I know there are a billion things worse than being diagnosed with epilepsy and I’m in no way saying that embracing some of the challenges chucked at us is easy but when you’re struggling to find the good in something, know that dealing with it (no matter how badly you think you are) you will be so much stronger for it…so there’s your positive.
Wishing everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year – keep on keeping on! You’re stronger than you know xxx