Another 365 days have passed and we’re ready to welcome in the new year. I’ve seen a whole bunch of posts already complaining about how shitty 2017 has been (remember everyone in 2016 being ready to make 2017 their year?!) Well buckle up because 2018 is going to be just as shit. The beauty of life is that you never know what’s around the corner – no matter how much you plan there’s always an element of uncertainty and the opportunity for stuff you never planned for but that is half the fun!

Angsty teenager Soph was very woe me. I’d sit and list all the terrible things that had happened and dwell on them, feeling sorry for myself and obsessing over how awful my life had been. I must have been about 16 or 17 when I had a total flip of perspective. I think I was having a bad hair day which spiralled into staring at myself in the mirror and telling myself how disgusting I looked (I know, I’m eye rolling at myself). It was at that point that I realised this wouldn’t change anything – if I wanted things to change, I had to change them myself. It seems like a very simple ‘epiphany’ but it’s one that’s changed my perspective ever since.

If I don’t like something, I will change it. If I can’t change it, I will learn to love it or live with it.

So what I’m trying to say is every new year will be shit unless you do something to change it. Unless you work towards your goals and put the effort in, nothing is going to change and every year forever more will be rubbish – it’s your job to make it not rubbish.

Numero dos: embrace the bad bits too. There will always be things that are out of our control and unfortunately, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles. One thing that helps me is looking back on all the bad bits of the year – not to dwell but to find the silver lining or a good thing that’s come out of it. If you can’t find that, then maybe you’re grateful it happened in a certain way? I started having fits this year and was diagnosed with epilepsy but I certainly don’t resent it happening. That isn’t to say it hasn’t been overwhelmingly difficult or that there haven’t been some really hideous days but I got through those by looking on the bright side of life. One thing I consider a Blessing: I never had a fit or a seizure whilst driving. Epilepsy was part of the plan for me, I just didn’t make the plan myself. Either way, it was going to happen and I am grateful every day that it was in an office and not behind the wheel.

Now I know there are a billion things worse than being diagnosed with epilepsy and I’m in no way saying that embracing some of the challenges chucked at us is easy but when you’re struggling to find the good in something, know that dealing with it (no matter how badly you think you are) you will be so much stronger for it…so there’s your positive.

Wishing everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year – keep on keeping on! You’re stronger than you know xxx



I know what you’re waiting for, the dreaded “New Year, New Me” speech as I reel off all the fantastic  changes I’ll be making in light of the new year…not quite. 

However, I do see the appeal in setting goals when you’re given a brand new year to begin from. A set of 12 fresh new months lying ahead of you give you that sense of motivation and positivity to make them better than the last, and I strongly believe we should embrace this. Life is full of ups and downs regardless of how we try to shape things; ultimately some things are just out of our control but it doesn’t mean we should knock the idea of trying to better ourselves. As a mental note for myself (or future blackmail) and to share with you, here are a few of my new years resolutions…

  1. Travel more: be it a 10 hour flight to explore a Caribbean island or a 40 minute drive to discover the hidden gems of England, travelling more is at the top of my list. Unfortunately I don’t have a never ending fund of money for these things but my aim is definitely to get out a bit more and see the world. 
  2. Use my phone less: The amount of times I find myself scrolling through social media sites is incredibly depressing yet there’s something quite addictive about it. It’s not at all productive and sometimes leaves me in a bit of a rubbish mood as I swipe through the seemingly incredible lives of others. This is something I will definitely be ditching. 
  3. Keep gymming: this year I joined the gym (applause please) in an attempt to get fit and healthy but also as a mood booster. I’ve really loved seeing the benefits of going regularly and this is something I definitely want to keep up in the new year. 
  4. Look after myself better: sometimes I’m a bit rubbish at recognising when I need a lie in or a chill day or some good wholesome food. I always feel the need to push myself and seize the day despite it not always being what’s best for me, so recognising what I need sometimes is a small but important resolution of mine. 
  5. Save money: Ed and I will be moving into our new flat early next year so this is kind of a necessary one. Being savvy with money so we can still enjoy going out and socialising is a must. 
  6. Stop putting things off: I do this, a lot. I’m not as bad as I used to be but it’s certainly something I still want to improve on. Let’s just say I filled out the forms to register at the doctors 6 months ago and I still haven’t got round to dropping them in…you see my problem?
  7. Meditation and mindfulness: this is something I got into this year but kind of lost touch with. I found it really beneficial and incredibly interesting to read and practice different techniques on the path to mindfulness and contentment, so this is something I really want to focus on.

And there we go, those are my general aims for the year in an attempt to make it rich with success, health and happiness. What are your new years resolutions? As always, let me know in the comments below x



Here in little old England, it’s that beautiful time of year where the clocks have gone forward and we’ve gained an hour in bed (hoorah!) However we are now left to deal with the cold dark nights that come with it. Winter appears to have landed on our doorsteps and like every year, I struggle not to fall into my very own hibernation. With dark mornings, shorter days and sitting in an office all day, wilfully watching out the window as the sun appears and disappears, it’s hard to stick to goals and stay motivated. Have no fear, though, Soph is here with a few tips to get you by:

1. Seize the day! Incredibly cliche (I know) but it definitely helps, trust me! We’ve all had those days or months of waking up at 12 and before you know it, it’s 4pm and pitch black. It feels as if the whole day has disappeared and you haven’t achieved anything (which is always a hideous feeling). So despite risking sounding like your mother, get up at a sensible time with goals for the day in mind, open those curtains, have a mighty stretch and feed your body. A good start to the day is vital to productivity.

2. EXERCISE! Believe me when I say I rarely feel like exercising when in need of a little positivity. In fact it’s the last thing on my list, lost waaaay under eating my feelings and binge watching a Netflix series. But believe me also when I say it helps. so. much! There’s a whole bunch of science and endorphins behind it which I won’t attempt to explain but you will feel the difference yourself. What’s also great is it doesn’t have to be an entire gym workout or marathon run; even taking 20 minutes out of your day to go for a walk or jump on a bicycle will get you breathing in some much needed fresh air.

3. Tidy Space, Tidy Mind. Sometimes life can throw a whole bunch of rubbish at us and it all gets a bit much. At times like these (if you’re anything like me) you’ll find it a whole lot harder to stay motivated and get stuff done and a whole bunch easier to mope around and wallow in your own misery…and sometimes that’s okay. These are my favourite times to put the effort into pampering myself: run a bath, get some fresh sheets on your bed, gather up a load of laundry, get into some fresh pjs and put some time into something you really enjoy doing. This is a great way of achieving stuff and being productive whilst also looking after yourself (the last bit is V important)

What are your tips for staying positive? Let me know in the comments!

Sophie x