Another 365 days have passed and we’re ready to welcome in the new year. I’ve seen a whole bunch of posts already complaining about how shitty 2017 has been (remember everyone in 2016 being ready to make 2017 their year?!) Well buckle up because 2018 is going to be just as shit. The beauty of life is that you never know what’s around the corner – no matter how much you plan there’s always an element of uncertainty and the opportunity for stuff you never planned for but that is half the fun!

Angsty teenager Soph was very woe me. I’d sit and list all the terrible things that had happened and dwell on them, feeling sorry for myself and obsessing over how awful my life had been. I must have been about 16 or 17 when I had a total flip of perspective. I think I was having a bad hair day which spiralled into staring at myself in the mirror and telling myself how disgusting I looked (I know, I’m eye rolling at myself). It was at that point that I realised this wouldn’t change anything – if I wanted things to change, I had to change them myself. It seems like a very simple ‘epiphany’ but it’s one that’s changed my perspective ever since.

If I don’t like something, I will change it. If I can’t change it, I will learn to love it or live with it.

So what I’m trying to say is every new year will be shit unless you do something to change it. Unless you work towards your goals and put the effort in, nothing is going to change and every year forever more will be rubbish – it’s your job to make it not rubbish.

Numero dos: embrace the bad bits too. There will always be things that are out of our control and unfortunately, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles. One thing that helps me is looking back on all the bad bits of the year – not to dwell but to find the silver lining or a good thing that’s come out of it. If you can’t find that, then maybe you’re grateful it happened in a certain way? I started having fits this year and was diagnosed with epilepsy but I certainly don’t resent it happening. That isn’t to say it hasn’t been overwhelmingly difficult or that there haven’t been some really hideous days but I got through those by looking on the bright side of life. One thing I consider a Blessing: I never had a fit or a seizure whilst driving. Epilepsy was part of the plan for me, I just didn’t make the plan myself. Either way, it was going to happen and I am grateful every day that it was in an office and not behind the wheel.

Now I know there are a billion things worse than being diagnosed with epilepsy and I’m in no way saying that embracing some of the challenges chucked at us is easy but when you’re struggling to find the good in something, know that dealing with it (no matter how badly you think you are) you will be so much stronger for it…so there’s your positive.

Wishing everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year – keep on keeping on! You’re stronger than you know xxx



I know what you’re waiting for, the dreaded “New Year, New Me” speech as I reel off all the fantastic  changes I’ll be making in light of the new year…not quite. 

However, I do see the appeal in setting goals when you’re given a brand new year to begin from. A set of 12 fresh new months lying ahead of you give you that sense of motivation and positivity to make them better than the last, and I strongly believe we should embrace this. Life is full of ups and downs regardless of how we try to shape things; ultimately some things are just out of our control but it doesn’t mean we should knock the idea of trying to better ourselves. As a mental note for myself (or future blackmail) and to share with you, here are a few of my new years resolutions…

  1. Travel more: be it a 10 hour flight to explore a Caribbean island or a 40 minute drive to discover the hidden gems of England, travelling more is at the top of my list. Unfortunately I don’t have a never ending fund of money for these things but my aim is definitely to get out a bit more and see the world. 
  2. Use my phone less: The amount of times I find myself scrolling through social media sites is incredibly depressing yet there’s something quite addictive about it. It’s not at all productive and sometimes leaves me in a bit of a rubbish mood as I swipe through the seemingly incredible lives of others. This is something I will definitely be ditching. 
  3. Keep gymming: this year I joined the gym (applause please) in an attempt to get fit and healthy but also as a mood booster. I’ve really loved seeing the benefits of going regularly and this is something I definitely want to keep up in the new year. 
  4. Look after myself better: sometimes I’m a bit rubbish at recognising when I need a lie in or a chill day or some good wholesome food. I always feel the need to push myself and seize the day despite it not always being what’s best for me, so recognising what I need sometimes is a small but important resolution of mine. 
  5. Save money: Ed and I will be moving into our new flat early next year so this is kind of a necessary one. Being savvy with money so we can still enjoy going out and socialising is a must. 
  6. Stop putting things off: I do this, a lot. I’m not as bad as I used to be but it’s certainly something I still want to improve on. Let’s just say I filled out the forms to register at the doctors 6 months ago and I still haven’t got round to dropping them in…you see my problem?
  7. Meditation and mindfulness: this is something I got into this year but kind of lost touch with. I found it really beneficial and incredibly interesting to read and practice different techniques on the path to mindfulness and contentment, so this is something I really want to focus on.

And there we go, those are my general aims for the year in an attempt to make it rich with success, health and happiness. What are your new years resolutions? As always, let me know in the comments below x



With the joys of Christmas slowly coming to an end, it’s time to face the reality of a dwindling bank balance and the extra long stretch til pay day. With a new year on the horizon, I make it my top priority to get organised and get in control of my money (for however long it may last). Here are some ways I like to stay on top of my finances without that FOMO feeling…

Set a budget: Honestly, I feel boring and clichè writing it but it really is the very best place to start. Work out your actual income and outgoings every month and then you can see what you’ve got to play with. Once you know what you have left over, calculate how much realistically you can put into savings (it’s always good to have a backup) balanced with how much you will be spending on actually enjoying life (v important)

Shop around: I’ve never been all that good at shopping around for a bargain…when I see it, I want it and if it’s right there, the effort of searching stores and the internet for a cheaper price is all too much. This, however was in my teenage years when the money was coming in and I didn’t really have any financial commitments. Now I’m a little older, the familiar saying “saving the pennies so the pounds will save themselves”  is one I often find echoing in the depths of my mind as I dive into the shops. The prices of products vary massively between stores, so it’s always worth doing a quick check online as you never know when a fab deal will suddenly appear. (Plus you get that smug feeling of saving £3 which never gets old).

Banks: They’re pretty useful. Whichever bank you’re with, they’re likely to have a few benefits you can make use of which will help you save those all important pennies. I’m a little late to the game, I’m sure, but I recently discovered the joys of cash back with my bank. They have 30 participating stores and restaurants to choose from which you load to your card. Participating companies change regularly and offer from around 3% to 15% cash back for simply using your card to pay. This is in no way a massive money maker, but seeing a few extra £££s entering your account every month (for spending money as you would normally) is always welcomed. 

Food glorious food: Saving money is important but so is food. Need I say anymore? A great way of spending time with friends and family or rekindling the spark with a loved one is going out to eat, (and even better), it doesn’t need to be expensive. Always check out what deals restaurants have before you decide on where to go as you may be surprised. The best thing is, it doesn’t even mean compromising on going to a different restaurant over your fav; visiting on a weekday evening instead of a weekend can save you a whole heap of money. Oh, and don’t forget those good old lunch menu deals!

What are your top tips for saving that all important moolah? Get in touch in the comments below x